Dad falls apart (AndyG lawyers up)

@AndyG, I'm sorry to hear of all the BS you're having to go through. Tragically, that's the lesser of the issues. It sounds like you'll soon be dealing with the loss of your father, which is heartbreaking. A healthy father/son relationship is unlike any other, and I'm sorry for the inevitable loss that you will endure. My thoughts and prayers are with you, my friend.
 
I have a friend who took her brother all the way to the state Supreme Court when he tried to take the entire family farm after her dad died.

No will, just him as POA. Her brother went from trying to take it all to getting less than 1/4 after the court ordered everyone's legal bills got paid out of the estate.

She didn’t need any of the estate, nut she did it out of principle. It took her around 5 years to beat him so you can imagine the legal costs.

That is a classic story- the more he fought for more than his share, the less he got.

I’ve had a few legal scrapes over the years and I realize that there can be gross miscarriages of justice- But overall our system works incredibly well- Especially when you give consideration to the fact that it has to serve everybody under every circumstance.

This would be a walk in the park if the state had of not changed the signature law in 2020 , but the deed was done in Feb 21 after that and seems to meet state guidelines.

Of course you guys know I’m a pretty big idiot, So I’ll get stupid right along with this lady and go full retard to keep her from getting it - I’m not going to do anything criminal, but I might put some skunks in the basement and turn off the utilities just for a good laugh.

My 1/2 of 151k will still buy a lot of jeep parts.


And I’m gonna go a little out there and say that you could say that you’re really just talking to a bunch of strangers on the Internet now, but 2 of my best friends hang out here, as well as a ton of guys I’m going to meet if I ever can- I bet we are all not as far apart in out worlds as we think.
 
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@AndyG, I'm sorry to hear of all the BS you're having to go through. Tragically, that's the lesser of the issues. It sounds like you'll soon be dealing with the loss of your father, which is heartbreaking. A healthy father/son relationship is unlike any other, and I'm sorry for the inevitable loss that you will endure. My thoughts and prayers are with you, my friend.

Thanks, it is like getting a rusty jeep- love the jeep but the rust complicates the fun.

If you guys want to know where I got my sense of humor it was probably from him- He told the nurse the other day that they could just give his catheter to somebody else he didn’t need it-

And when the nurse came in and asked in a loud voice if he was in pain he said only when people shouted.

He has a humorous truthfulness that is just so refreshing in today’s world- He will tell you in a heartbeat it’s not the principle of the thing, it is the blankety blank money. He called bull on everything wrong.

When 9/11 happened I ask him what he thought and he said they had been driving everything they could get their hands on into a building for 30 years they just got bigger equipment this time. Very true .

When I was 25 and in a mess he said “son, you need to get around some better people.” I did. Most of ‘em drive Jeeps.
 
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How old would you say the lady is? Sounds like she's been running a con on him.

60- And that’s exactly right- I think the relationship was transactional.

What stands out first is the document only mentions the house to her- People don’t write wills that way typically that have a lot of other posessions. It is evident that she was the author of the document or the idea at least-

She is currently in the same battle over her mothers property with her own family that won’t speak to her.

My sister and I have never seen the woman.

The gauntlet she really threw down was the no trespassing signs.

I might create a new term- “go full Blaine on her”😅😅. I say that respectfully because he is about the best I’ve ever seen at locking horns.
 
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Fight hard man.

I really appreciate all these posts guys.

Right now I can’t even talk about this to many people close to me for fear of meddling or repercussions-

Having you guys as a sounding board is always enlightening- I may be as wrong as I can be, but every time I get on here I feel like I’m speaking to people with good values I would enjoy knowing if we met.

We have a good thing here. We have good knowledge and experience with the TJ, and we tune in to each other and support the other guy.
 
Well the attorney finally came through that I have been working thanks to a strong referral from my mother who has a good relationship with him-

My sister is in route to deed the property over to ourselves and record it. Once dad dies we will evict her and she will go nuts. Fine with me. I went there years ago, it ain’t as bad as they say.

I told my wife to go to the hospital and keep dad alive til 4 even if she had to breathe in his mouth.

Boys you talk about close.
 
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sorry to hear about this Andy, my father passed away two years ago so I know the loss.

My wife works at a law office out here and she will tell you this happens way to often. Wish you luck, maybe the POA can sell the house to you.

It amazes me the stories that I’m hearing from people about similar instances- That is essentially what we’re doing.
 
Well the attorney finally came through that I have been working thanks to a strong referral from my mother who has a good relationship with him-

My sister is in route to deed the property over to ourselves and record it. Once dad dies we will evict her and she will go nuts. Fine with me. I went there years ago, it ain’t as bad as they say.

I told my wife to go to the hospital and keep dad alive til 4 even if she had to breathe in his mouth.

Boys you talk about close.

Man, AndyG, if that works, it's gonna be so satisfying to know you beat the gold-digger at her own game - bravo, my friend! At the same time, though, dealing with losing a father is traumatic. I lost mine two decades ago next month, and I still think about him all the time. They don't make fellers like my old man anymore. He fought hard for this country in Korea (Bronze Star with "V device" and the accompanying physical and mental scars), and he'd give anyone his last buck if they really needed it.

Keep your chin up - things will swing more positive before you know it!
 
Man, AndyG, if that works, it's gonna be so satisfying to know you beat the gold-digger at her own game - bravo, my friend! At the same time, though, dealing with losing a father is traumatic. I lost mine two decades ago next month, and I still think about him all the time. They don't make fellers like my old man anymore. He fought hard for this country in Korea (Bronze Star with "V device" and the accompanying physical and mental scars), and he'd give anyone his last buck if they really needed it.

Keep your chin up - things will swing more positive before you know it!

Thank you she is at the courthouse now and we ‘ve got about 30 minutes...I think one of the things that really stands out in my mind is the power of relationships. I’ve never met this attorney and we have not paid him a dime but he knows my family and he was willing to drop everything and make this happen.

I’m going ask my sister to please make sure that we are more than fair to him when we pay the bill.

The reason I’m pointing that out is we didn’t just need anybody we had to have the right person with the right specialty close enough to the courthouse and the willingness to jump into the fray- That doesn’t happen every day and you have to be grateful when it does

It’s not really about what I can get for myself as much as just not letting somebody have it that is not entitled to it- I see so many people that are on the take. Before this happened a while back I promised myself that I was going to stand against that behavior for the rest of my life. I also think it’s a good idea to remember that some of your best decisions are going to be tested.

I am just a guy that’s trying to be a make a buck in life and be a decent human being ... and have a jeep to play with.
 
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As of the close of business at the county courthouse in small town , Alabama, by power of attorney, a deed was recorded that transfers my fathers property to my sister and I.

The crowd goes wild.
 
Sooo... crisis averted or is this just the opening battle?

Well that’s a good statement- Right now she has to take the house away from us rather than us trying to take the house away from her.

The worst thing you can do is cross your arms and feel like you have everything by the tail- Usually confidence is that feeling that you have before you know all the facts.

Basically in the legal world anybody can fight or sue for anything if they’ve got money- It isn’t about wrong or right it’s about an attorney being willing to take a check and file some paperwork. Realistically she’s going to squawk but what we’re going for is a position strong enough most attorneys probably wouldn’t want to take the case.

There’s probably not many cases where people get more upset than cases where they think they have the right to something valuable and then get surprised during probate that they have nothing.

One of my goals was to not get in to something that would turn into a 4-5 or six year legal battle- At least now we are in a position that we can probably knock out anything pretty quick and move on.

We have a cash buyer for the property which massively reduces headaches in terms of the sales process.

The immediate concern right now is finding out who has it insured and being protected in case she does something radical- One of my beliefs in life is to be very careful when you’re dealing with people that may not have much to lose.

I keep getting a lot of pushing and advice from relatives that need to shut up and let me handle it - Like one that keeps telling me to get her out of the house and I’m telling her let’s not do anything until we know we have insurance. You absolutely have to look beyond the immediate in situations like this.
 
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Crazy story, what a terrible person. It's good to see the good guys win. Sorry for your loss too, you have better things to do right now than deal with this crap

Thank you and I am definitely trying to see some sense in all this-

I think there are some real important things-

First lay the groundwork early and thankfully I had an attorney working on the title search when we had no idea his health could go south so quickly-What that did was give him the confidence to drop everything and make this a reality when we needed him the most.

Another thing was the power of relationships- This guy really likes my mother because of some of the work she does in the local community. We were not on his calendar today but everything came together.

The thing that is pretty amazing is we need someone with his specialty in that area with his knowledge of the circumstances to be willing to do it upon short notice- He is 35-40 miles away and the courthouse is just down the street.

If you want some ships to come in you better send some out.


Another important point is be humble enough to get professional help- Everybody wants to be an Internet doctor or whatever today and this goes on and on-

The first thing he did was read the power of attorney and make sure that it had the wording to do what we did so that what we did will stand later if it gets contested. I can barely center my front axle so I know that job is over my head.

Anyway thank all of you so much for caring enough to read the thread and all your encouragement.