What's going on with my lugnuts?

in all my years of driving i’ve never put a torque wrench on a lug nut. always get them nuts finger tight then tighten them up with a 4-way. only problem i’ve ever had was due to tire shop using to much air pressure stripping the lug studs. tire shop made it good by reimbursing me for new studs and lugs.
That’s why I’m thinking it can’t be the torque wrench that’s the problem, most people get it good enough and they’re always fine