I wanted 33’s with a 3” lift, but decided I’d be better suited with a 2” lift and 32’s because of many of the reasons you listed. I couldn’t be happier. 32’s are 2” wider and 2” taller than stock, they were the sweet spot for me and look great. I almost settled on 31’s, but I know I wouldn’t have been nearly as happy with the look I was after. I have the 6spd with 3.73 Dana 44 and the TJ drives great, even on the highway up to 75 mph. I would not recommend larger tires without regearing if you have the 3.07 Dana 35 rear axle though, it will be a dog with the 31’s, let alone 32 or 32’s. Most 32’s are ~31.5” and most 31’s are ~30.5”, so keep that in mind and check out the actual height of the tires if you are looking for height, no matter which size you settle on.