Man I just saw this thread and all I can say is peace on you and your family. Losing anyone is tough, but a father, I cant imagine. Something I never really had in life, but it sounds like you had a hell of a daddy. Cherish that.
Just went through something similar with my grandmas house. She raised me from a baby and when she got old I stepped up and took care of her through dealing with grandpa (a whole other crazy story) thieving relatives, addiction to prescription meds and a whole mess of once or twice a week "emergencies" for the past 10+ years. She started falling down late last year and went into a nursing home just after Christmas. She's the only mother I have ever known and the only person in this world I knew had my back 100%.
When she went into the home the hands came out and everyone wanted to know what the old woman had and how much they were getting. True answer, not much. She gave it all to me in 2015 on a promise I would make sure she was looked after in the end. I got the house and what little money there was and she never told a soul, she wanted it to be a surprise. In the end the people that didn't like me much like me a little less. I asked grandma if I should share out the money from the house. She told me "don't give any of 'em a damn penny". She may be old but she remembers.
Thought I would fix up the house and keep it for a rental. First time I stepped inside without her there I couldn't take it, it felt so sad without her. Sold it wholesale the next day to a buddy of mine for a fair price for both of us.
Best of luck with the estate, its a mess at best of times but you're on the right track. One day at a time, one foot in front of the other Andy.
Man the hands coming out before dad even passed got to me.
“Name your price!” his 84 year old brother yelled about a trailer I had given dad I was taking home. Sir, do you see it attached to my trailer ball?
The Kubota tractor has really amazed me- offer upon offer. Uh, he ain’t dead Fred, it ain’t mine to sell. How about asking how dad is ? It has gotten to the point I will not sell it just to be impartial.
Some of the tackiest crap I’ve seen.
2 hours into the morning of his death one person asked if we had arrangements made. Yes, we are arranging for rigor mortis to set in you idiot. He had been dead 8 hours.
A couple I know was sending me “exciting pics” of their concrete walls being cut knowing full well Dad had passed during the night. Seriously?
About the same with the Corvette.
For the rest of my life I will NEVER approach someone about property a loved one left- they need time to decide how they feel about it, plus time to read the will and probate the estate. It is not the time to play lets make a deal.
The more I got harassed the less open I became.
Sis said “keep the Corvette.” Ok sis.
I’m not a ‘vette guy at heart, they are a fairly narcissistic car to me(no slam to any vette guys) - but give me a C6 with under 22,000 miles and I’ll take a ride. The most impressed I ever was with a Corvette was a C6 I drove when they first came out. I remember saying they had finally made them into a really nice riding, quiet car. Also the transaxle weight bias is awesome. They hook up.
Thanks for your personal story. Really touching.