I know what you're going through
@astjp2 my girlfriend has been type one since she was 11 or 12 (31 now). I've been with her for 7 years and it's always been a struggle to keep things right. Then last year she went in to the hospital with pneumonia and came out knowing her kidneys had shut down due to the water pills and all the other meds she's on for various other health issues. She has to go to dialysis 3 days a week for 3 hours at a time. I couldn't imagine having to go through this at 30 years old. It sucks not being able to do anything for her other than just support. The only advice I can try to give is to just be there for her, keep her spirits high and don't let her get herself down.
PS: Also looking for an O negative donor, so let me know if you find a spare. Doc said the waiting list that type is over 6 years which sucks!