Your Jeep as-is out-drives you. You don't need to buy any of this stuff. Learn to air down and go wheeling. I drove 50,000 miles before I did anything to mine. It's all money down the drain, save it for gas. After a few years of wheeling and having fun you'll know what direction you want to go and wont build the Jeep five times over.
Recovery gear - yes.
Fire extinguisher - yes.
Air compressor or a way to air up your tires - yes.
Lift - no.
Winch - no.
Disconnects (or any expensive sway bar thing) - no.