Okay so I have a 2001 Jeep TJ with a 4.0 and 307 Gears 3 speed automatic. I really don't care about mileage I tow it with my motorhome love to get where I'm going AND if punched at the light have lift power and be able to cruise at 60 65 with 33 inch tires no need to go faster not in a hurry but love the power and lift from the stoplight. Have the 30 and 35 Dana combo so do I need to upgrade the axles or will I be fine given that I'm not rough riding it Off Road but want to be able to crawl over obstacles not rock climbing just go four-wheeling have fun with the automatic so the wife can drive it.
I'm may tow up to 70 miles per hour so that is a factor
I am thinking 4:56 gears with an ox cable Locker in back and a SYE not sure about what to do in front...
I want excellent manners on the road when the wife driving but can be a mean little b**** when I want it to be
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I agree that 4.10 is probably the better choice, though 4.56 isn't unreasonable. 4.10 will be a bit quieter and more economical on the highway than 4.56, though 4.56 will have more torque on and off-road. If it were my jeep I would absolutely go 4.10.
I would strongly consider a Super 35 kit with either a Eaton Elocker (my recommendation) or ARB air locker.
The Dana 35 has smaller axle shafts than the Dana 44, and they are notorious for snapping in the worst possible moment, most of the time off road, but sometimes even on-road. Look up enough Dana 35 stories and you'll find plenty of people who snapped a shaft pulling out of a gas station.
What the Super 35 kit does is it gives you larger diameter axle shafts (same size as a Dana 44) of a slightly better alloy, so they have significantly more strength than stock. Unless you are being extremely abusive, a Super 35 will hold up to just about anything you might dare it to.
The only two lockers I'm aware of that exist for the Super 35 kit are the Eaton Elocker and the ARB air locker. Even if the Ox Locker was an option I would still recommend the Elocker. It is dead simple, even more so than the ox locker. Feed it 12 volts, it's locked. No power? Unlocked. Can't be any simpler than that. Heck you could hotwire to lock with just a short piece of wire if you had to in an emergency.
If you add a locker in the front too, consider a Super 30 kit as well. It is nowhere near as necessary as a Super 35, but if you're replacing the carrier and are considering new shafts, this would be a great time to do it.
Here is an example of a Super 35 kit:
https://www.4lowparts.com/shop/super-35-rear-axle-kit-eaton-e-locker-Dana 35-30spl/