HAVE AN UPDATE!!!
so guy came by today and took a look at the car, he wrote some things down that needed to be repaired.
I asked him would you deem this as a total loss, he said to me "here is what is going to happen, I am going to put it in for repairs because as I can see this car is in really good shape and for the amount of miles that it has its basically a gem." I told him i would rather do repairs and he said bring it in to get an estimate of all the things that are going on then send that estimate to the insurance company and they will let you know what the steps are to get this resolved.
So not a total loss its getting repaired