That's why I started this thread to try and simplify things.WOW I think I'm in over my head on this.
I'll try to break down your post into several questions.
I wanted a crawler for the weekends and thought that I can put a 6" long arm
A 6" lift is going to be overkill and place your rig higher than is necessary. Mine is at 4" lift equivalent.
with 37;s on and go.
37s are great, but there's big stepping stone between them and 35s. There also isn't much more work than going to 40s. So before you go to 37s, know why you want 37s. Bigger isn't always better.
I don't have the money for axles right now so can I beef up the axle shafts and add a axle truss to help till I get the money for axles?
The issue really isn't the axle tubes not being strong enough which could be helped with trusses, it's the bearings and ball joints that are too weak so you'll end up having to replace them often. So trusses just end up adding extra unnecessary weight.
I encourage you to read through this thread a few times because there's a lot more to it than just bigger tires and wheel spacers if you want a well built rig. You'll need to build holistically.
And how long will that last till I blow up an axle?
It all depends on how hard you are on it. I've heard of some daily drivers that are fine on the TJ axles and 37s for a few years, and I've also heard of off roaders who replace their axle parts each weekend.
Personally I built for reliability because I'd rather be driving than on the side of the trail/road dealing with problems.
Is it worth spending money on the larger breaks for the dana 44's now or should I just put that money towards the axles?
If you are insisting on 37s now, you absolutely should make sure that your brakes perform in emergency and panic situations.
Again, read through this thread because a lot of your questions will be answered and it'll probably make more sense.
One other thing to keep in mind is where you want to wheel, because different builds work better in different areas. Some guys need 44" Super Swampers to go through deep mud pits, long wheelbases are preferable in places like moab and sand hollow, narrow and short is beneficial in the forest, ifs is better in go fast desert, etc. I wanted something that would work well anywhere and so far it's held it's own toe to toe with purpose built rigs for many of those areas.