You pack too much, that's why tents aren't enjoyable. I've lived out of tents and tarps for over a year combined (6 weeks being the most consecutive before returning to base for several days to resupply before heading back out.). I've car camped across the east coast and back through Canada. Each time I bring less and less backups and extra things as I have become more aware of what I use and how I use it. Aside from food itself, I find that I live most comfortably out of a 20l pack. That's personal gear, tent (either my share, or a personal tent), and cook stove. Anything more and it's just frustrating to deal with which ends up holding me back.