Im still working on closing up my aunt's estate five years after she passed. The 16 revisions of her her trust didn't help... especially the revisions that modified portions previously struck out by previous revisions.
Further she had farmland that was supposed to go to my cousin... wasn't in the trust, had to do a long probate process and days before signing over the property my cousin passed away.
I've done elder care and estate arrangements for my grandparents, aunt and uncle...my parents are next, then my MIL and FIL.
It's almost a full time job. Especially when they resist and don't want to trouble you. Oh I'll just take care of it myself and then I spend six months getting them out of a contract or something worse.
-Mac
luckily he has a long standing trust, good eldercare attorney and financial planner. It saved his ass when my MIL went into the memory care unit at $14K/mo and that was 8 years ago. Luckily NY has a spousal refusal form he signed that basically says he refused to pay for her care. He was able to keep all his income, 2 houses only thing lost was her SS, IRA income and that's it. He got all the IRA money when she died.