I'm about to be divorced for other reasons than my toy habit. I have several, including a nice boat that she totally fell for me over when we met almost 20 yrs ago. We make about the same amount of money & somehow I have a larger savings account, larger IRA, more toys in the garage, etc. Now we're "growing apart", which means I like to do a lot of the same things I did 20 yrs ago, and she doesn't get into that any more.
Good luck with yours. I tired to keep a balance where I would put time & money into other things like the house or vacations. That works for a while, but eventually it has come down to we're just not into the same things any more.
Hang in there bud!