That was it thank you sir i got my baby home now im gonna get to the parts storeHere's a pic for reference, should be terminals 10 and 14 (this is out of my 99 manual). If you jump those with the relay removed and the key in the on position it should crank. If the actuator pin is your problem it'll also start so you can get it somewhere. I drove around having to do this little dance for a week before I got around to fixing it.
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