Am I being selfish?

[Butch5150]

My Jeep. Not our Jeep, My Jeep.
The wife has a 2012 FJ Cruiser 4x4 and wanted it lifted. So, pulled it into the garage and it took me about 2 nights after work to do the lift. 2 days later, my daughter wanted fender flares on her 95 Wrangler. Pulled that into the garage, again 2 nights after work got those put on. And now, the FJ is down again to get the windshield replaced.
Let me just say, I work from home.
So all that to say, they both had to use my Jeep to get to work. Why do I hate that ? I’d give a stranger the shirt off my back. But driving my Jeep? That’s like sharing a toothbrush.
Maybe I am selfish, just ranting.

 

[Butch5150]

Of course I let them both use my Jeep, with a smile. But deep inside I really wanted wanted to say no.

 

[WallyWest]

No, sounds normal to me.

Of course I bought a manual TJ, and lifted it, knowing full well my wife has bad knees and can't climb into it easily, and also can't drive stick. Because I'm a problem solver.

 

[Butch5150]

No, sounds normal to me.

Of course I bought a manual TJ, and lifted it, knowing full well my wife has bad knees and can't climb into it easily, and also can't drive stick. Because I'm a problem solver.

You covered all the bases I missed !

 

[Modoc Guy]

I don’t think it’s selfish. It’s your Jeep.

I buy plenty of things meant for everyone in the family, but I also have things I have for myself.

No one touches my musical equipment, or my firearms. Or wears my clothes either.

And we all have different dividing lines for the things we consider ours, and what we consider everyone’s.

It’s all good.

Maybe you’ll find a nice way to let them know how you feel about it, in good time.

 

[Chris]

I think my wife is too afraid to drive my TJ in fear that she might mess something up and she knows how important it is to me

 

[Rubicon88]

My Jeep. Not our Jeep, My Jeep.
The wife has a 2012 FJ Cruiser 4x4 and wanted it lifted. So, pulled it into the garage and it took me about 2 nights after work to do the lift. 2 days later, my daughter wanted fender flares on her 95 Wrangler. Pulled that into the garage, again 2 nights after work got those put on. And now, the FJ is down again to get the windshield replaced.
Let me just say, I work from home.
So all that to say, they both had to use my Jeep to get to work. Why do I hate that ? I’d give a stranger the shirt off my back. But driving my Jeep? That’s like sharing a toothbrush.
Maybe I am selfish, just ranting.

You afraid of something?

I whip the keys and say go for it. All the while I know how much they just love that machine. It speaks for itself.

 

[AndyG]

You are dealing with a creature that can tell you what shoes she wore on your second date, but can't tell you how long the oil light has flashed in the car. It's a tough game.

I went through the same deal early on...got shamed on here a bit ....but basically I was nervous to let her drive it. Why? It was my toy and I didn't want it messed up. I worked hard to get it, to fix it up, to make it mine....as my 3-year-old said one time when he saw another kid in the car buggy at Walmart.. it was mine....I had it first.

And before anybody says anything consider this- we bust out butts for our families, build and buy and maintain yards and homes, sacrifice, put up with enough stupidity at work to near kill us ..all because we know we are in it with her together. We signed up and we are going to stick it out.

Some guys want to tie flies, some guys it's their golf clubs, some guys their boat .. whatever. But mostly what we men crave is a little corner of our lives nobody messes with, all the tools are there , the radio is on our favorite station, the parts come in and we have a few precious hours to see what we can do, something we enjoy and are proud of. Something no one else but us can control, a world that makes sense and immediately rewards us for what we do, and if it gets messed up we did it. Because we know if we can do that, we might just be able to stay sane another week or so. Is that bad? It keeps homes together and good, hardworking men from going over the edge is what it does.

My wife slams the door harder than the forum rulebook indicates, puts her shoes on the tub getting in and out, leaves a trail of girl stuff and always needs a phone cord. I found a feminine pad in my Bartacts' pocket recently. Those things are adhesive on one side, did y'all know that? No wonder they go to the bathroom 2 or 3 at a time. Those things must hurt something awful coming off.

She says she hates it, but somehow every nice, warm Saturday when I finish my morning errands , she's dressed for the wind and ready to roll.

Always do a little something for yourself...always.....because you can't pour from an empty cup. You can't give what you don't have.

 

[Hickey129]

if saying NO is too difficult then say ok absolutely then go and pull a plug wire off your Jeep and when you get their vehicle fixed then put plug wire back on

 

[BuildBreakRepeat]

I’ve tried many times to get my girl to drive my Jeep. She’s scared of it! Not complaining

 

[Gollywomper]

I let my teenage son use my old Jeep once..........

 

[Alex01]

My wife has little to no interest in driving the jeep on the road. She'll drive on a fire road every now and then but the manual keeps her from wanting to take on anything more challenging. I for one hope one day my kids learn to drive the jeep on fire roads and minor trails. I'd love to see it continue to get used and appreciated by them. (With me in the passanger seat.)

 

[JMT]

You are dealing with a creature that can tell you what she's she wore on your second date, but can't tell you how long the oil light has flashed in the car. It's a tough game.

I went through the same deal early on...got shamed on here a bit ....but basically I was nervous to let her drive it. Why? It was my toy and I didn't want it messed up. I worked hard to get it, to fix it up, to make it mine....

And before anybody says anything consider this- we bust out butts for our families, build and buy and maintain yards and homes, sacrifice, put up with enough stupidity at work to near kill us ..all because we know we are in it with her together. We signed up and we are going to stick it out.

Some guys want to tie flies, some guys it's their golf clubs, some guys their boat .. whatever. But mostly what we men crave is a little corner of our lives nobody messes with, all the tools are there , the radio is on our favorite station, the parts come in and we have a few precious hours to see what we can do, something we enjoy and are proud of. Something no one else but us can control, a world that makes sense and immediately rewards us for what we do, and if it gets messed up we did it. Because we know if we can do that, we might just be able to stay sane another week or so. Is that bad? It keeps homes together and good, hardworking men from going over the edge is what it does.

My wife slams the door harder than the forum rulebook indicates, puts her shoes on the tub getting in and out, leaves a trail of girl stuff and always needs a phone cord. I found a feminine pad in my Bartacts' pocket recently. Those things are adhesive on one side, did y'all know that? No wonder they go to the bathroom 2 or 3 at a time. Those things must hurt something awful coming off.

She says she hates it, but somehow every nice, warm Saturday when I finish my morning errands , she's dressed for the wind and ready to roll.

Always do a little something for yourself...always.....because you can't pour from an empty cup. You can't give what you don't have.

That’s brilliant, especially the large paragraph in the middle.

 

[JM_TJ]

100% fair. My gf once asked me to help her practice driving a stick with my TJ. After 2 minutes of hearing her grind my gears I just started shouting “nope, nope, can’t do it, sorry. Honey, just get a Zipcar membership”.

Although, the slight downside now is when I was too sick to move my TJ last week she refused to do it because ‘I scared her from driving it’.

 

[jmbstudios]

No one touches my musical equipment, or my firearms..

Uh yeah.
No one touches my guitars.
They are locked in a safe..

But you can look!
I'm a big Taylor guitar and PRS guitar fans

 

[DrDmoney]

You are dealing with a creature that can tell you what she's she wore on your second date, but can't tell you how long the oil light has flashed in the car. It's a tough game.

I went through the same deal early on...got shamed on here a bit ....but basically I was nervous to let her drive it. Why? It was my toy and I didn't want it messed up. I worked hard to get it, to fix it up, to make it mine....

And before anybody says anything consider this- we bust out butts for our families, build and buy and maintain yards and homes, sacrifice, put up with enough stupidity at work to near kill us ..all because we know we are in it with her together. We signed up and we are going to stick it out.

Some guys want to tie flies, some guys it's their golf clubs, some guys their boat .. whatever. But mostly what we men crave is a little corner of our lives nobody messes with, all the tools are there , the radio is on our favorite station, the parts come in and we have a few precious hours to see what we can do, something we enjoy and are proud of. Something no one else but us can control, a world that makes sense and immediately rewards us for what we do, and if it gets messed up we did it. Because we know if we can do that, we might just be able to stay sane another week or so. Is that bad? It keeps homes together and good, hardworking men from going over the edge is what it does.

My wife slams the door harder than the forum rulebook indicates, puts her shoes on the tub getting in and out, leaves a trail of girl stuff and always needs a phone cord. I found a feminine pad in my Bartacts' pocket recently. Those things are adhesive on one side, did y'all know that? No wonder they go to the bathroom 2 or 3 at a time. Those things must hurt something awful coming off.

She says she hates it, but somehow every nice, warm Saturday when I finish my morning errands , she's dressed for the wind and ready to roll.

Always do a little something for yourself...always.....because you can't pour from an empty cup. You can't give what you don't have.

You left out “puts feet on dash with shoes on”

 

[Butch5150]

Okay , whew. I’m not alone. AndyG hit the nail on the head. I guess it would be different if I heard “ I love your Jeep”. But instead I hear “it drives weird, and makes a weird noise, etc”.
anyway, my turn in the garage. I got the angry sparrow squeak going on. Time to drop the front DS and check the centering yoke. I’m sure it’s original.

 

[Irun]

During the week, I work from sun up to sun down for my family. They are without question my first love. That said, the one creative outlet I have left on weekends is the Jeep. It's important to me not because I love it, but because I can step back and say I built it. There's no one else to blame, but me, when I make mistakes. However, there's also a sense of pride when I get something right. In the end, it's still just a machine. One that, grudgingly, can be replaced. Are you being selfish? No. You're just tryting to preserve your own artistic canvas!

 

[Westtown Willy]

No, nope, uh uh, nada, not interested.

I just cannot envision a scenario where (insert any human being’s name here) drives away in my TJ. It’s just not a thing that’s gonna happen, ever, at least not with my consent.

I’d sooner rent (insert loved one’s name here) a car in a pinch.

Yea, it’s a mental illness.

 

[JM_TJ]

To be honest, my butt tightens a little when ever anyone even steps foot in my TJ. Whether its my dad dragging his foot on the door seal when he gets in, my gf using her butt to shut the door properly or mates who leave trash behind in the seat pockets, it all drives me crazy.

I’ve come to realise it’s just that they just see it as a car. No matter how much the love riding in it, to them, subconsciously it’s no different to a Honda Civic. They don’t understand what my TJ is to me. They don’t understand what it means. It also explains why my gf thinks I’m mad for spending hours researching new headlights...

Despite all that, on a sunny day, it would be pretty lonely to be driving my TJ top down without anyone in it with me. So all I can do is keep drilling them on how to treat my TJ and teach them to think of it as my child.