You don't need a diode and you don't need two switches.
use a 5 pin relay:
86 - hooked to reverse trigger
85 - ground
30 - goes to lights
87 - ignition power (can also be constant, won't make a difference since it will only be used in reverse and the Jeep has to be key-on for reverse to work)
87A - power goes to your switch, then out the switch to 87A. Decide whether you want that constant or ignition power.
This way the switch will turn on the lights immediately, but if the switch is not on, putting the jeep in reverse will trigger the relay to kick them on instead.
The only downside is they will come on in reverse all the time with no way to disable them, but I'm fine with that. Don't spend enough time in reverse to be concerned.
@machoheadgames is this the relay you're suggesting I use?
I'm fine with the reverse aux lights coming on EVERY time I select reverse. Like you said, I'm not spending that much time in reverse and if there is someone behind me, I want them to see me.
And, Yay or Nay on the diode? If yay, what do I need to buy?