It is really is annoying when people are like that on the trail. I wheel with a few groups but I tend to stick to the Jeep groups not because I think Jeeps are better but because there seems to be less bashing. When someone on a Jeep runs starts up into that "oh those toyotas..." I always reply with something like "Man did you see those new TRDs they sure are nice or did you see the raptor now has a 37 package" normally quiets them up
Just a few things to consider
* Tire pressure - Make sure you air down. It is one of the biggest things you can do when going offroad to improve your performance. Rember your tires are the only thing making that ground contact. If they can't grip then nothing matters. People always are going off about how I make it through everything because I have lockers but the truth is my lockers are rarely on. It's because I'm at 6psi and they are at 15psi I'm also running good tires. The tire compound makes a huge difference and will vary depending on area on what is right for you.
* Lockers and traction aids - Likey those Toyota's had limited slips in the rear or lockers. It makes a huge difference. Again I'm on 35s with a pretty small lift but I go many places the JKs and JLs on 37-40s can't because I have lockers and aired down correctly. If you are totally open then you might need to give a small bump sometimes but there is a fine line between a bump and a full send
* There is nothing nothing nothing wrong with winching. I'm normally the first person to yell "let's hook up". So many people go one more bump, one more bigger bump, ok full throttle, and then you'd fixing axles, picking up pieces, etc. Heck winching is pretty fun.