Hope you are feeling better soon.
I was being generalistic in my comment, however if you did have 4" lift in the rear and barely 2" in front something was "really incorrect" and you would be running into the issues as suggested.
I've just looked at the ARB US Catalogue as some stuff didn't make sense when I compare to the kit I purchased from ARB in Australia.
• It says the 10mm spacers are optional in the US (I didn't get any spaces with my kit) but if you have used them both initially as they were part of the kit supplied, you've added just under 1/2" of lift on top of the springs. Whilst you may have needed the front spacer for leveling, the rears were surplus. So maybe this is a trap for young players if ARB are supplying these in the kits without you ordering them.
• I'm running HD springs all round with no hardtop and no rear seat. I am however running an ARB rear bumper and 32" spare so maybe that added weight isn't giving me the issues you guys are having.
I used the transfer case lowering spacers as I didn't want any dramas, I've always had it in my mind that I was going to install a SYE and adjustable arms at some point anyway to complete the kit.
Glad you feel you have it all sorted