Am I being selfish?

[AndyG]

Thank You, and Amen. I am not hard on my kids because I want to. I am hard on them so they learn how the world works. My boy is a Senior this year and averages 25 hours a week working. Pays All his own bills, and bought his own vehicle. Well, we paid half, and he paid half for the truck. That has always been my deal with my kids. First vehicle, we will pay half, but we have to approve of the vehicle. Hopefully he will be going to lineman school in the fall. I hope I am raising a man. Lord knows my wife and I are trying.

He's getting his education, he's learning how to work...the most important education their is, has a career path in mind, has responsibility so getting drunk and crashing that truck is not an option...this is a good formula. He's already on his way to adulthood thanks to his parents.

Watch him and then watch some of his peer group over time.

A poorly raised child inevitably causes the parents grief...and it sometimes hits them in the wallet... fixing stupid is nothing...try to finance it.

Keep doing what you are doing...you are teaching them how to survive. That is huge.