I've got a Rubi. 4.10s. 33s. Wish I had 3.73s. Depends on your use. Me, I do a lot of highway, a lot of forestry road and I tow a trailer most days.
So if you are constantly off road, no highway 4.56, 4.88 sure. But if your TJ is more of a daily driver, I'd recommend 4.10 or 3.73.
Stock lots of TJs came with 3.07s. I had that in a YJ. With 33s, I NEVER used 5th gear. And starting from a stop off road, I always used 4LO. But honestly for forestry road blasting, driving it like it was a Mustang.... the 3.07s were magic. The speed range in each gear meant never needing to shift. I ran uphill in 4HI, 2nd gear. Good for 15mph to 60mph. And downhill in 4LO, 3rd gear. The lower a rear end ratio you use the more you have to shift as speeds in each gear narrow.
So screw what you read here. Figure out how you drive, where you off road and pick the right ratio for your wheeling.