You should change the clickbait title of this thread... you're not really asking if you the a-hole, you believe you aren't and won't listen to anyone who says otherwise... You should repost this thread and pose it as a simple rant rather than a question, it would be more honest.
It's a Jeep forum full of knuckleheads. Did you enter this conversation thinking we were going to have a philosophical debate on the extent of my assholedness? Stop taking yourself so seriously. I'm well aware that I'm a dickhead.