I'm assuming you're talking about the front trackbar?? Didn't read the whole thread.
If so, I had the same trouble and seen it multiple times in threads on this forum. I used a ratchet strap to get it re-aligned. When you get it pretty much lined up at the axle side, it will still be twisted, as you're experiencing, so have someone turn the wheel back and forth slightly while you slip the bolt through. There is usually enough play to get it in.
Also, sometimes at 2" lift you can get away without an adjustable front trackbar, but sometimes you can't. After you get it back together, measure from the frame to the inside of your tire on each side and see if they are close. Chances are you're axle is shifted toward the driver's side, so the measurement on that side will be greater. If it's more than 3/4" you will need an adjustable front trackbar. Currie, Metalcloak and JKS in that order. I went with the Metalcloak.
If you're talking about the rear trackbar, the twist problem occurs there too. Don't tighten down the driver's side or the passenger side. Get one in loose, then work with the other one till you can hammer it in with a rubber mallet, usually goes, you may have to raise and lower the jack under one or the other axle side to get it aligned sufficiently.