Yep, that pretty much sums it up. My wife wants to nurture them and coddle them, and I want to give them tough love.
They know they can get away with so much more when it comes to my wife. They don’t mess around with me because they know they’ll actually get in trouble. Of course it doesn’t help that my wife won’t back me up when I am trying to enforce the rules with them.
I know I'm quoting a post that's in the middle of the thread... but I'm so glad I grew up with strict parents. I can imagine it's tough trying to figure out what is best.
My mom was the "softer" of the two, but my dad was pretty strict growing up. I remember thinking about how all my friends had "cool" parents letting them do whatever they want. Well a lot of those friends ended up in jail, pregnant with kids from 3 different fathers, have shitty dead end jobs today, etc. Looking back I'm glad my parents were hard on me, and I think it's a big reason why I have more respect for them today.